Lina H Hanna

Lina H Hanna

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Social validation


We are social creatures, living in groups, building relationships and social circles whether for economical reasons or personal ones all gathered in one geographic spot that brings us closer to the people who share the same location or expanding bridges with far away countries through the mediums of modern communication tools that we all take pleasure in using.
We often promote ourselves to be just like everybody else in order to obtain that social acceptance or should I say for some of us it is rather the” social benediction “. We think that if we are similar to the rest of the community we will shine more and we will belong to a social network and thus reserve our place within a certain group of persons to feel more adequate and more successful.
But, let us just pause for a minute and ask ourselves do we want to stand out or do we just want to blend in and have that total fusion of the overall woven social tissue to a point we fade into the group and erase our own individuality for the sake of society?
Why seek to please others or gain their approval of who we are, who we want to be while the only validation we should seek is our very own self image, our true color and our own identity? Why do we want to imitate and copy others and risk the chance and the time to be the first version of ourselves?
Isn’t imitation limitation? Isn’t it boring and dull to see the same stereotypes over and over everywhere on the planet? How can we forgive ourselves for wasting days and years being someone else and loosing the opportunity of being ourselves?
Who says the majority should dictate how the minority should be? If the majority thinks alike and look alike does that make it a universal law to be obeyed and practiced? Think of the equation well, win yourself and earn your freedom, or lose yourself and let the chain of slavery be put around your wrists with the social constraints on your behavioral pattern.
Being different is nice, it is an act of revolution to show your true self to the world, and be accepted and wanted for who you are rather than for who are expected to be.
The same things that differs us from the rest are the same things that makes us beautiful. Refuse to be a replica, search for your own light, and don’t follow the lights already lit for you. Always be the head never the tail, those who are worthy to be in your life should know the real you, the you that makes you, you and not anyone else. Isn’t just divine for someone to know you and still love and want you the way you are without no intentions or persuasion to make you who u are not?
Let us try to enjoy our similarities and celebrate, embrace our differences, let us consider those differences as richness that adds color and vibe to the world. Be who you are, be eccentric, be nerdy, be crazy, be whoever you are when you look into that mirror, if fear holds you back from being yourself, you are already defeated, be bold and brave enough to show and enjoy the person you are, you do not need the approval of the world to be happy in your own skin, and whoever is worthy of your love would never ever compromise or let you be someone whom you are not.
Your self –image , your self esteem comes solely from yourself, you are your only reference, free your mind from the pressure of the society, and just live the way you want, the way you choose, do things because you want to do them, because it makes you happy, and never because that is what everyone else is doing.
You are larger than life itself, rejoice in expanding yourself and discovering your uniqueness, and always remember that in life you will meet people who will love you for who you are, and those who will hate you for being you, and that is fine, we all have the right to be selective and that is freedom of choice.
We are not compelled to be the same as everyone else to please them, our first duty is towards ourselves, being true and honest of the distinctiveness in us elevates us to the rank of true humanity. Mistrust those who try to control you and make you an extension of themselves, those who wants you to act like they do and speak like they, those are personality eaters, mean minded demons who want to deprive you of the right that nature gave you upon your birth, the right to be you, the dark self and the enlighten self in you.
When you love someone you accept them as they are, love them and want them the way they are, the things you like and dislike alike in the same way, you love them in spite of who they are and not because they are like you.
Always adopt a strong, positive self image; you are who you are, and anyone who accepts that will go on a journey of finding and exploring a diverse self , filled with new possibilities and promises. So go ahead, it is never late to be who you might have become before long before you even tried!

Lina Hanna Hanna.

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